going through a bit of sub drop so let’s talk about it! vv ..
Added 2020-07-28 14:34:52 +0000 UTCgoing through a bit of sub drop so let’s talk about it! vv what is sub drop? to put it simply, it’s the molly blues. during sex and kink/fetish scenes, chemicals like dopamine and adrenaline are released in high quantities. because these play so heavily on emotion, as a submissive it puts you into a very vulnerable (but exciting) headspace. however, after sex or the scene is over, those chemicals start dropping and your headspace needs time to process and adjust while your body deals with the sudden spike and crash of hormone levels. this causes a “drop” in mental energy, physical energy, emotional fortitude, and more (depending on the individual and intensity of the excitement). so how can we prevent this? first, is being aware of your headspace. understanding how deep your headspace is during the scene/sex will help you be able to not only anticipate the drop but also help you ask for help from your partner sooner. to help your sub, asking what they may need is a good start but keep in mind not everyone is aware of their needs or immediately feeling any effect. providing or receiving immediate loving and caring attention after words will help the transition. after that, checking in with your self is necessary. feeling irritable or weepy is normal, take time to provide extra self care in whatever way makes you feel most comfortable. drink water and eat well. the idea is to return the mind and body to a place of feeling safe and how a person needs to do that is always individual. whether it’s yourself or your sub, just ask! stay safe, fellow heretics 🖤
