yesterday we talked about “sub drop”, today let’s talk about..
Added 2020-07-29 15:49:00 +0000 UTCyesterday we talked about “sub drop”, today let’s talk about “dom drop” 🖤 what is dom drop? just like for the submissive, doms can experience the same crash. during sex and kink/fetish scenes we know that chemicals like dopamine and adrenaline are released in high quantities for all parties involved! these hormones get you excited and then you feel the emotional and physical crash afterword the event. where these differ for tops and bottoms however is often the line of thinking associated with the emotional side of the crash. while symptoms may exhibit themselves the same way, the headspace involved affects the source of the negative feelings and thus how to care for it after. doms more frequently work through feelings of guilt and unworthiness for enjoying these typically negative actions, not to mention the vulnerability attached to finally being able to surrender the control you have over so many aspects during sex/a scene. and how do we prevent this? doms have a lot more to pay attention to than just their submissives entire experience, you also have to listen to yourself and understand how your experience in the moment may translate down the line. aftercare is not just for submissives and being able to express your own care needs to your sub will help everyone recover much quicker! that being said, in some cases just normally providing comfort and support for your sub as their aftercare is enough to help circumvent some of the negative emotions. and above anything, don’t be afraid to feel vulnerable. if you need comforting, allow yourself to let go and accept it. drop drop is a normal and natural reaction, no dom is expected to appear strong every moment of the day. allowing yourself to be vulnerable and “soft” is the best self care you can provide. stay safe fellow heretics 🖤
