let’s talk about safewords! what are safewords? (a crash c..
Added 2020-08-06 20:21:00 +0000 UTClet’s talk about safewords! what are safewords? (a crash course): safewords are words or phrases agreed upon by a dominant and submissive (prior to a k*nk/f*tish scene or playtime) that indicate to all parties when something is going wrong. once a safeword is called, any activity is stopped in order to assess the problem and how best to solve it in the moment. the ideal safeword is something that would come out of left field and break the headspace. when creating your safeword, it’s important to think of how you react to stress. under immense stress, it’s common to freeze and forget to say anything besides “stop”. this is absolutely acceptable, but something you and your dom must be prepared for in advance. even when words aren’t possible, consider actions like taping out or foot stomps to convey a problem. i personally use the stoplight method: yellow means i like this scene but need to slow down or physically adjust, red or stop means everything ends. when the stop word has been called, everything stops and immediate aftercare is applied. when a stop word is called, that means STOP. any playtime is over, restraints are removed, and comfort is applied. aftercare starts immediately and we begin the prevention of our “drops”. ANY DOM WHO CONTINUES PAST A SAFE WORD IS ABUSING THEIR PARTNER, this is not up for debate. the point of calling safewords is in the name, safety. being aware of headspace as a dom and sub means everyone stays safe in the long run! be good, fellow heretics 🖤 (@the_gothbae)
